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Happy Birthday To Me: 37 Thoughts On Relationships, Self-Esteem & Life
It’s that time of year again – I turned 37 on Monday and we also got the keys to our new home (you can see a pic on Instagram). Exhaustion doesn’t even cover it but I’m very happy, looking forward to...
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Stop giving you a hard time for not having had the perfect or ‘right’ reaction
There are times in life when I’ve given myself a hard time for how I reacted to something in the moment. Note that I, like many others, have given me a far harder time for having feelings and opinions...
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You can change your version of normal at any time
When you’ve witnessed or been through a lot of stuff as a child, a chunk of adulthood is spent trying to work out what’s normal because it quickly becomes apparent that what was ‘normal’ to you isn’t...
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Other People’s Behaviour: Why do you want it to be about you?
When you find that you’re persisting down the Other People’s Behaviour Is All About Me track and are getting stuck on blame, ask yourself, “Why do I want it to be about me?” What are you getting out...
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Is it my issues or am I in the wrong relationship?
It can be incredibly frustrating to desire healthier relationships and to have done some self work, only to get into a relationship and experience a near assault of confusing emotions that leave us...
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Dodging People’s Projections: It’s Not About Us. Really.
Have you ever had that disconcerting experience of being accused of something you haven’t done and it turns out that the person is in essence, working up a case against you because they have done...
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Admit The Cover-Up & Stop Overcompensating
Over the years of writing BR, I’ve emphasised how relationships are 100:100. We have to own our own and let others own theirs. We have to show up and be our true selves rather than show up on the...
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Shifting from blame to taking responsibility for you
One of the things that can prove to be a tricky balancing act is knowing that line between blame and responsibility. Some people think that they’re one and the same thing but blame, which is really a...
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Podcast Ep.20: Do Neglected Chores Break a Relationship? and The 8 Types of...
It’s that time of the week again– there’s a new episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast! Here’s what I cover in episode 20: Do neglected chores break a relationship? After reading this post...
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Podcast Ep.32: Appreciating You, Deal-Breakers, You Can’t Be ‘The Solution’
It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 32, I get into: Deal-breakers: When we’re not attracted to somebody, we can often find umpteen reasons to make our exit (unless...
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Advice Wednesday: Do I Have Problems That I Can’t Admit To Or Am I Being...
Anna asks: How do you really know if someone is manipulating you or whether it’s you that’s really the one with problems and can’t admit to them? ********** One of the things that people who are lean...
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Podcast Ep. 43: Why Did We Break Up? – Don’t You Want Me
It’s time for a Why Did We Break Up? episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. I’m so excited as I’m loving these special editions of the show. In this second episode (if you missed the first, go to...
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Giving Up The Role of Being Over-Responsible
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been over-responsible. I’ve felt that I have to be strong and so avoid showing ‘weakness’ by asking for help, expressing needs or sharing my feelings. I’ve hung back...
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Advice Wednesday: He Didn’t Emotionally Support Me When I Lost My Father &...
Lucy asks: I’ve broken off my engagement to a man I’ve been with for nine years. The relationship hasn’t been plain sailing to say the least. We spent six months apart due to his lack of emotional...
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It’s Not That ‘One False Move’ You Made
Sometimes, if not often, we’re too quick to convince ourselves that we’re the architect of our own failure. We give ourselves too much credit for being in control of stuff that we’re not. As a result,...
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Happy Birthday To Me: 37 Thoughts On Relationships, Self-Esteem & Life
It’s that time of year again – I turned 37 on Monday and we also got the keys to our new home (you can see a pic on Instagram). Exhaustion doesn’t even cover it but I’m very happy, looking forward to...
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Stop giving you a hard time for not having had the perfect or ‘right’ reaction
There are times in life when I’ve given myself a hard time for how I reacted to something in the moment. Note that I, like many others, have given me a far harder time for having feelings and opinions...
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You can change your version of normal at any time
When you’ve witnessed or been through a lot of stuff as a child, a chunk of adulthood is spent trying to work out what’s normal because it quickly becomes apparent that what was ‘normal’ to you isn’t...
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Other People’s Behaviour: Why do you want it to be about you?
When you find that you’re persisting down the Other People’s Behaviour Is All About Me track and are getting stuck on blame, ask yourself, “Why do I want it to be about me?” What are you getting out...
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Is it my issues or am I in the wrong relationship?
It can be incredibly frustrating to desire healthier relationships and to have done some self work, only to get into a relationship and experience a near assault of confusing emotions that leave us...
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